There is so much fear around the most natural thing we are designed to do. It is fear that makes labour a dreadful thing. If you can change your mindset about what labour is or should be, you can enjoy a most beautiful experience even if it was a difficult labour.
It upsets me that we live in a society where labour and birth seems to be a competition among women. Those who have not taken drugs through labour are hailed a hero and those who did take drugs are made to feel less worthy than the women who choose the pain. The stories of women who have the most dramatic and near death stories are given the most attention to. The more dramatic the better, the longer the labour the more amazing you are. “my labour went on for 5 days” Good onya, but you forgot to mention that only the last 2 hours were the most painful. But of course humans like to top each others experiences, forgetting that these stories put fear into women.
The majority of labour stories I have had to listen to are nothing short of unbelievable. If I didn’t know any better I would NEVER give birth! Holy batman, I hear you can tear terribly and need 358 stitches to put your undercarriage back where it belongs. I am sure some of you reading this can relate. I am so sorry you have had to experience that. Then there are those who need their hips dislocated in order for the baby to fit through the birth canal…….awful. Of course these examples are VERY rare.
So lets focus on the beauty and miracle of birth. I think I have enough experience to tell you that giving birth is the most amazing thing you will ever do in your life.
Whether you choose drugs, no drugs or a home birth (and I did all three of these things) in the end all that matters is that you have given birth in the way you wanted to.
The only way to achieve the birth plan you envision is to go and get yourself informed and educated. Don’t do what most women do, leave it up to the doctor. “The doctor knows best attitude” can get you into trouble very quickly.
No, think for yourself and ask yourself, how would I like to give birth and how can I make that possible. If you are uninformed and unprepared you will be brought to the slaughter, been there, done that!
Only once, because the 2nd and 3rd time, I made sure I got what I wanted and what I needed. Think with your doctor, don’t let him do all the thinking. When, in the rare occasion something does go wrong, your doctor is right there. But do not let him do the birthing for you, that’s your job.
Your body is designed to give birth, it has done this since the beginning of mankind. Let your body do what it should and don’t intervene unnecessary. And most important of all do not be afraid. Breath, relax and allow nature to do it’s thing!